December 17, 2007

Everyone wants to feel the joy of Christmas time but while one is elated another may be devastated. How do we express our joy when there are others who are experiencing severe challenges? When we are close to one who is suffering and in pain, it may not seem appropriate to be celebrating our joy.

In our compassion we want to be able to relate to anothers troubles and comfort them but at the same time we do not want to take on their problems and make them our own. A very fine line here, to extend our love and compassion yet to remain emotionally detached. We can offer comfort without appearing cold or uncaring by our personal detachment.

Here we are, rejoicing in the present time as we prepare for our guests and Christmas celebration when we receive the news that my son is separating from his fiancee after 3 1/2 years. I feel his pain and sadness yet there is very little I can do to help him. I can see the disappointment from both my son and his fiance’s point of view but I cannot offer anything other than an ear to listen and a place for my son to take some time to visit while he heals his broken heart and makes a decision to choose again.

To refrain from giving advice or taking his problems upon myself I am reminded that this is his life and what he is experiencing and expressing is of his own creation. An opportunity for him to forgive and open up to more love. To be willing to think differently and choose again. I acknowledge that the same God that loves me also loves him and that he too can open up to receive all the gifts and blessings from aligning to God Source. It is a choice, a decision he can make.

In reaffirming our truth in our Oneness we can offer compassion and remain detached. We can continue to live in our expression of love and joy while another is expressing something other than love and joy. We can remember that there are no “victims” in life nor does God love some and not others. If we can reaffirm the truth in the Divine Presence of God in all of His children we can remain in our center of peace. In our demonstration of love and peace we are allowing others the opportunity to witness, acknowledge and choose.

If we support another in being a victim by feeling sorry for them and identifying with their “cause” of circumstance, we are denying them the opportunity to see the truth in their Oneness. Bring them to God by example! Do not be afraid to express your joy even in anothers time of darkness. Accept and allow them to feel what they are feeling and show them another way in the example of your love and light. Speak your truth and release any attachment to how they will perceive your words or react. Allow them their feelings but do not confirm their limited perception. Give them more truth to view the situation differently. Then, let go and let God. What they do is up to them, not you.

Because it was my son who was hurting, for a moment I forgot everything I know and I wanted to solve his problems and ease his pain. As a result, I was completely drained of my life force and assumed what I was feeling was what he was feeling. I had taken his pain and made it my own. I had forgotten to remain detached and to turn it over to God Source. Today, I will remember and choose again!

In Love and Light,
Kerry and her Angels

Copyright © 2007 Kerry Sue Hettleman